Have you ever thought how many times you tell to some one that you did not expect him/her to behave in a ceirtain manner?

It is very difficult for me to think that things or beings do not change over their life. I still can not find a concrete example of something that never changes.  Besides, if something does not change implies that it is eternal. So far, the only things that I know as ‘eternal’, according to some people, are soul, God or other metaphysical things from which, I think, we do not have existing evidence to prove their existence.

Now, coming back to my main question, do we consider people as beings that never change, as eternal beings having always the same personality (to use the word identity will bring us into another topic ) and doing the same actions or, at least, following the same patron on their behaviour? If we think that things change over their life, we will be contradicting our selves by expecting our friends to behave always in a certain manner depending on the situation.

 Many times, we tend to anticipate how our friends would react to something because we think we know them enough. However, at least I am not sure how well I can know some one when I even know that I am in a constant change. 

Should we claim that we do not expect someone to do something when it depends on his/her voluntary action? I think we should not. It seems something insignificant but we might ignore the fact that we live in a constant process by believing that we could make that claim.  For example, how many times do we tell to someone how disappointed we are with that person because s/he done something that we did not expect without taking into consideration his/her own ‘desires’ or tendency to change.

If we think we have the right to claim when we do no expect one of our friends to do something, we could imply that there is a promise between us. And, if that is the case, it could also imply that our friendship is a kind of economical relationship where each of us gets a benefit from it.  

To tell our friends what we are expecting from them it could even be a way to control them. Perhaps yes, perhaps no, perhaps sometimes. Kant said that people never think that they are going to die since they take it for grounded.

May be we never think that we are always changing; therefore, we forget that the rest of people also changes.